As us men can barely imagine, birthing a baby is a profoundly intense experience. If a woman is disconnected from her body, then she is more likely to have a difficult birth. If on the other hand, a woman is in the zone, in her body and feeling good in herself, then she is likely to inhabit that moment with grace and relaxation. Feeling emotionally and energetically open and in one’s body allows a woman to more easily ride the intensity of the birth and thus for the baby to more easily come from her body.
For most women, having a baby grow insider her brings up a lot of anxiety and fear. In attempt to manage these feelings, it is natural to worry and go into their heads. It does not make them feel good about themselves and it does not put them in the zone.
Fortunately, there are a number of things that women can do to get themselves in that zone and feel good in their body. Doing yoga, getting massaged, taking baths, naps and dancing all help.
But the most powerful thing a woman can do is have sex.
Sex supports a woman to feel really good in her body and really good in her genitals. Genitals that are profoundly changing and that she may have very mixed feelings about.
Unfortunately, for far too many couples, sex falls to the floor during pregnancy. This has a very detrimental impact on the birth process and their relationship. Both of which can lead to a lot of problems down the line.
There is another really important reason why having lots of sex during pregnancy is so valuable. You are not likely to have a lot of sex for a long time. It is often many months before you can easily have sex with your partner. It is often many years before women really feel their own sexual desire again. This is your chance. There are no kids around to distract you. This is your chance to really solidify that bond with your partner and feel your eroticism with them.
Having this bond will help you face the inherent struggle of having a baby pop up into the mix. You are going to face all kinds of intense challenges and if you feel erotically close and really good with your partner, you are far more likely to handle those challenges without pushing the relationship to its edge.
So here are six steps to supporting your intimacy to thrive during this crucial time period.
Step 1: Don’t Give Up!
Sex can be complicated when pregnant. Certain positions that you relied on in the past may be awkward or may not work at all. You may have to figure out a different way to be sexual. There may be positions that in the past you have had aversion towards. Look at what those aversions might be and see if you can play around and try something a little different.
It is important to stick in there, even in the face of that awkwardness. Talk to your partner about what is working and what is not working as you are engaging in a sexual act and find a way that can work for both of you.
Step 2: It’s not all about Fucking
Making love does not have to include intercourse. We all know this and yet most of us are habituated to over-relying upon penetration and neglecting the myriad other acts that can be even more intimate. There are certain times during pregnancy where intercourse may be too awkward.
It is delightful and very connecting to explore other options for with your partner. Take some time to talk with your partner about what they would like. So many of us never talk once we get sexual. However good our communication is throughout the rest of our relationship, we somehow revert to silence once the clothes come off. Try talking during sex and sharing what you’d like to try. This fosters the connection and opens doors to new options. This will allow you to have this erotic relationship that can flower in the face of the pregnancy.
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